Tips on Preparing Children for School
School is an exciting yet scary experience for children. For some children, the “first day of school” takes place at daycare when they are babies. Other children experience school at early childhood classes or school readiness/preschool. No matter how old a child is, how emotionally ready or well prepared, all children experience some anxiety during those first days.
Here are some ways to minimize the stress:
Familiarize your child with separation early. All infants and toddlers need to experience brief periods of separation from parents. A few hours away from parents, followed by the parents’ return, builds the child’s confidence that the people he loves and trusts will come back.
Make sure your child has had varied experiences playing with other children. These experiences help children go from the very personalized environment of home to the large group setting of school or daycare.
Read books on the topic. There are many children’s books about going to school. Choose a few with your child. Reading these books together give children a way to experience school in a comfortable way.
Honestly accept your child’s feelings. Share in your child’s concerns. Saying something understanding can help your child name and accept his feelings. ”I know that you feel nervous about school and that’s ok. Everyone feels that way when they start something new.”
Accentuate the positive. Saying something positive can help your child have the courage to face his fears. “I know you’ll do well. I have confidence in you. I will be here for you.”
Emphasize the work ethic. (This worked well in my own household.) I would say something like, “Both your dad and I have jobs. We try to do the best we can. School is your job. We want you to do the best you can too.”
In the end, a successful adjustment to school is dependent on a lot of factors. Some of them will beyond your control as a parent. By providing support, encouragement, understanding and acceptance, you will do what you can to help your child have good school experiences. It is a special time in your child’s life! Enjoy it!
Jill Phillips
ECFE Parent Educator